“The heart was made to be broken.” - Oscar Wilde
“Ever has it been that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation.” - Khalil Gibran
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aside from the more than 30 men who shared their experiences, two psychologists provide professional opinions and two bartenders and two psychics give their commentaries.
what lead to the heartbreak and what happened afterwards are as varied as the ages, backgrounds and sexual preferences of the anonymous contributors. it is interesting to note, however, that despite the differences, there are commonalities in how most of the men cope with their heartbreaks.
bingeing on alcohol is commonplace. men are supposed to be tough. boys do not cry but the stories negate this. the following may then come as a surprise but crying, not dating and abstaining from having sex for a certain period are also on top of the list.
i am a male blogger and as a man, i do not believe that i and the rest of the brotherhood come from a red planet. i think that both men and women generally have the same capacity to fall in love and feel pain. what probably sets the genders apart - other than the obvious reproductive organs- is how each expresses these feelings and the choices that are made along the way. there is also the question of the role history and society play with regard to certain expected behaviors for males and females respectively. act differently and one is branded as separate from the norm.
i wish every adult man and woman would read this book. the number of respondents who related their painful memories may not be a significant one nor are their stories definitive. neither is it the aim of the book to provide a "cure" for what ails the male psyche. this compilation does show, however, a side to the male species that contrasts heavily with certain pre-conceived notions.
*Ain't No Sunshine: Men Reveal the Pain of Heartbreak is available at Amazon (paperback, Kindle) and Barnes and Noble (paperback, NOOK book). for more information about Kimberley A. Johnson and Ann Werner, please visit http://arkstories.com/home.html. follow them on Facebook (Author Kimberley A. Johnson, Author Ann Werner) and Twitter (@authorkimberley, @MsWerner).
my personal rating is:
Ain't No Sunshine: Men Reveal the Pain of Heartbreak contains material not suitable for younger readers 17 and under.
Disclosure of Material Connection: i was a gifted a copy by one of the the authors. i did not receive any payment in exchange for this review nor was i obligated to write a positive one. all opinions expressed here are entirely my own and may not necessarily agree with those of the author, the book's publisher and publicist or the readers of this review. this disclosure is in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission's 16 CFR, Part 255, Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.